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From the superficial to the profound

14/1/2020

I recently found myself reading a number of articles about how to improve on a budget the look of your home, from painting a feature wall to dying your bedding. It all seemed so easy, and it struck me that life can be a bit like that. We can make some superficial changes which give a sense of renewal; a different haircut or colour, a change of car, a new pair of shoes. The novelty wears off, and we start the process all over again. And why not? Isn’t life, after all, all about new experiences and doing new things?

I do, though, find myself wondering if addressing and changing the superficial is what we do because it is easy, and it allows us to be distracted from the profound, which of course can be much harder to change. A new pair of shoes is so much easier to navigate than a new career, a new life, a new model of the world. Which people do all of the time, realising that once you take the first step, it suddenly seems so very possible.

What are you changing in your life? What’s the reason for making that change? And the reason behind that? And the reason behind that? Are you making those changes because that it is what you want to do, or are you masking the profound issues which you are not yet ready to change? When you are ready, with or without support, you know that you can change what really matters, don’t you?

Celebrating the victories

14/12/2019

I wonder how often our days are defined by what went wrong – the missed bus, the gridlocked traffic, the boring meeting – rather than everything that went right. And the reality is that for most of us, most things go well for most of the time. It's about celebrating the small victories each day - a good night's sleep, getting everyone out of the house on time in the morning, the traffic being quieter, shopping and finding the perfect top, no queue at the petrol station, the well-timed cup of tea... the list goes on. Victory after victory, success after success.

There is a surprising amount of research which explores and establishes the importance of being grateful and expressing gratitude. This is not so much about spending your entire day saying thank you to everyone, although saying thank you when it's appropriate to do so never goes amiss, and more about acknowledging what goes well every day. And so much does go well. Maybe nothing which will change the course of human history, yet the small successes which mean that life, in general, generally goes well.

Stop for a moment. Think about everything you did yesterday. All the tiny steps that took you from the start of the day to the end. How much actually went right? Mentally tick them off, and celebrate each and every one of them. Briefly think about what turned out differently… how much did it actually matter, and how much did you turn into a victory? Because you know that it really makes a difference, don’t you?

Preparing for the future

24/11/2019

I read a lot. In fact, I read loads. Books, articles, blogs, news sites… the list goes on. And I have been struck recently by how much is written about the future, from the macro to the micro, from global warming to improving well-being. It’s good to be ready, and it’s great to have a plan. Otherwise, life becomes a meandering sameness, interspersed by moments of chaos and action. Which, I guess for some, is not that bad.

The question then is, what are we actually preparing for? We know that life is not a dress rehearsal, we all only get one shot at this thing called life, and, in the context of human evolution, our lives are objectively very short. So, surely, we should make the most of every moment of every day.

It is surprising, then, that we find so many ways to stop ourselves from living and being as we truly want to live and be. We develop limiting beliefs, make limiting decisions and, at times, surround ourselves with limiting people. Just stop for a moment and ask yourself for the reason you are not who you really want to be – are you limiting yourself or are you letting others limit you? And you know that you can change that at any time, don’t you?

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